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A eterna procura... até demora mais do que acabar o meu relatório!
So, you've read Pride and Prejudice (or you've seen the movie) and you're in love with Mr. Darcy—but does a modern-day Mr. Darcy really exist?
Nesta altura do campeonato já não estou apaixonada por nada... sim, será que Ele existe mesmo?
If you're going to find a modern-day Mr. Darcy, Austen's Darcy reveals a few that are definitely worth considering:
- Ability to support himself. In Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Darcy is independently wealthy. Clearly, most men you meet will not be so wildly independently wealthy as Mr. Darcy was portrayed. However, it is important that your modern-day Mr. Darcy finds purpose in working and values what his money can help him to achieve.
Be careful whom you reject. Clearly, the traits given a book character by an author represent an ideal. Loving an ideal can lead to sadness and frustration, particularly when no guy ever matches up to your mental image and you're endlessly rejecting a string of interested men.
Sim, já sei que tenho de parar de os rejeitar... mas não gosto da pressão, gosto de ser eu a decidir quem quero e quando quero...
Don't chase after men. Elizabeth didn't do anything to cause Mr Darcy to fall for her, other than to be her usual lovable self. She didn't feel the need to throw herself at anybody. She didn't turn herself into something that betrayed her true nature, and she certainly wasn't swayed by the vacuous and often nasty social climbing ways of many of the characters. Elizabeth remained true to herself, and presented that reality to all, including to Mr. Darcy.
- Ask yourself whether it's pride or prejudice driving you to chase a man who isn't right for you. You don't have to prove anything to someone who spurns you; leave it be.
Pois... este conselho é muito útil...
Be careful whom you fall for. On the one hand, it's comforting and dreamy to yearn after a Mr. Darcy-like man. On the other hand, you could risk seekingunobtainable men whose character is tortured, repressed, moody, and ultimately unattainable if the men you're dating show all the signs of Mr. Darcy's negative character and none of his redeeming features. In this case, you may be going after men who will never connect fully with you and who are commitment-phobic, causing continuous hurt. If this is a pattern you find you're not able to break, talk it over with your therapist to try and uncover the underlying cause.
Outro grande conselho... principalmente os que têm fobia ao compromisso!
Value yourself. Elizabeth was a character ahead of her time, clearly valued for her intelligence and self-respect. Yet, she was also created in a time when a woman needed to ally herself well with a man for the sake of economic well-being. Seeking a modern-day Mr. Darcy involves finding the right partner to share your life with, and part of this must include him respecting your choices and independence. Don't change your beliefs, your values, or your opinions for the sake of someone else; be open-minded when discussing topics and listening to new views and ideas but don't be easily enslaved by Cupid's arrow. Maintain your independent thought and reassure your modern-day Mr. Darcy that you can, and always will, think for yourself.
Acima de tudo! O melhor conselho! :)
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